Bullying affects everyone, whether you are just a bystander, the one who bully others and most especially the person that is being bullied. The effect is predominantly negative and can even lead to suicide. But what is Bullying? Why we shouldn’t just brush it off? Well, We will now discuss what is bullying and how do we stop it?
To begin with, let’s define it, “Bullying” is the use of force, coercion, or threat, to abuse, aggressively dominate or intimidate Bullying is the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another individual, physically, mentally, or emotionally. The behavior is often repeated and habitual. Bullying has its criteria:
- Hostile intent
- Imbalance of Power – The person who bullies use their power, popularity and has access to some embarrassing information, using those to harm others.
- Repetition over a period of time
Types of Bullying
Verbal bullying is when a person keeps on saying or witing things harmful things to you. It can be done by:
- Improper sexual comments
Physical bullying involves hitting or hurting a person’s body possessions. It includes:
- Punching / Kicking / Pinching
- Stealing or Tearing someone’s property or things
- Displaying rude hand gesture
Social bullying (relational bullying ) is a type of bullying where the intent is to hurt somebody’s reputation or social standing. This is most common with teenage girls, where a person will feel “left-out”. Unlike other types that are more visible social bullying can last for a long time without being noticed.
There are ways on how we can protect the young ones from bullying. Firstly, we must let them understand what is bullying, talk and advise them on how they can stand up to it safely. Also, tell them that they can always seek help and teach them how to.
Second is communication, keeping your lines open with your kids, ask them, check them as often as possible. Lend your ears when they speak out on something that is bothering them. Along with that, know their friends, ask them about school.
Third, let them do what they want to do, encourage them to do activities that they will like, you can introduce some sports, activities or hobbies, it will help them boost their confidence and it will defend them to those who have an intent of bullying.
Lastly, be a good example to your children, let yourself be the role model, show love, kindness and respect. In that way, your child can also imitate ways.
How Do We Stop It
Remember, there’s always a way to make things right. Here are some steps you can practice whether you are a parent, a teacher or a concerned friend. This how-to stop bullying.
Try not to overlook things
It may just be as simple as teasing but this can still affect a person’s feelings. Every individual is unique, they have different ways of coping what may be considered teasing to one may be embarrassing or devastating to others. Whenever you feel that your child or student is uneasy or threatened don’t ignore it, let them know that you are there for them to help.
Do not just watch over them, intervene as soon as you see that there is a problem between the kids. Don’t say that “They’re just kids” remember that they are growing and they might remember it until they’re old. Misbehaving should be addressed and corrected properly and as early as possible.
I know mothers can be overprotective, but as I’ve mentioned you need to be a good role model to your child. Still show some respect and kindness, talk to them calmly. If you are a teacher, make sure that both sides are fine and safe. Explain what is needed to happen.
Listen and don’t pre-judge
Before you scold one of them, listen first its most likely that the suspect is also undergoing or has experienced such treatments that’s why he/she is acting that way. Provide proper counseling, seek professional advice if it is needed. On the other hand, provide help to the ones that are oppressed, make sure that he is not hurt or if it is then seeking medical help is advised, let them know that you are always there to help them.
STOP BULLYING NOW!